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Relationship Advice | What’s Up Weekly with Diane | September 27, 2017

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Here's what was up last week!

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Diane: Direct Vlog

A few weeks ago, I posted a photo on Instagram of Scott and I at our City Hall wedding. We were both 34 when we met, and after seeing that post, I saw so many comments coming in from you ladies, saying it gave you hope! Let's talk! (Interestingly enough, I think it was my most-liked post EVER on Instagram! See the post and the video in the link above.)

And then, this week on the vlog, Scott jumped on with me to talk about some of the work you can do starting TODAY to not only know yourself better, but to be the best partner you can be in your relationship, too.

To learn more about the personality frameworks I talk about in the video, click here > 

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Massive Accountability

I don't know if this is true abroad, but here in the United States, we have a pervasive sickness in the way people behave towards one another (made worse by social media) that can only be healed by MASSIVE ACCOUNTABILITY.

Read on to hear more of my musings after reading Brene Brown's Braving the Wilderness here >


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21DSD Program Update

My team and I have been working on some exciting changes to the The 21-Day Sugar Detox online program, and I cannot wait to share them with you!

All existing #21DSD members should have received a few email notifications from me (not spam!!) with instructions on how to access the new platform, but let me know by emailing us at [email protected] if you're having any trouble. This is the first step in some exciting things coming you way this year, and I think you're going to love it!

Next 21DSD Group Detox – Monday, October 2nd

Join us this Monday for the October community detox. If you order today you can receive all of your materials in time, plus you'll have access to the online program to review the material ahead of time – just hop over to and grab both the online program access and the printed books (program access is for a lifetime, so when we improve/upgrade it, you get access to that as well, wink wink…).

The online program membership also includes access to our Daily Detox Emails (you subscribe, then select your start date) to help keep you on track each day of your program!

Sign up to join the detox here >

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Podcast Episode #313: Gretchen Rubin – The 4 Tendencies


  1. Introducing our guest, Gretchen Rubin [1:30]
  2. Something new that I'm into: Gretchen Rubin [3:17]
  3. The Four Tendencies [4:42]
  4. Unexpected impacts [8:01]
  5. Letting go of negative connotations [13:41]
  6. Finding your accountability [18:13]
  7. Tendency type changes [22:46]
  8. Obliger rebellion [25:25]
  9. Upholder tendency [35:12]
  10. Upholder tightening [37:58]
  11. Questioner and planning [41:27]
  12. Explaining healthy eating to a Questioner [45:33]
  13. Helping a Rebel [51:16]
  14. Gretchen's new book and a book tour [1:07:32]

Tune in or read more >

Diane Sanfilippo & Liz Wolfe | Balanced Bites Podcast | Gretchen Rubin - The Four Tendencies

Podcast Episode #314: Fitness, Movement, & Postpartum Recovery with Dr. Lindsey Mathews of BirthFit


  1. Reintroducing Dr. Lindsey Mathews [1:40]
  2. Breath work [2:41]
  3. Emotions held in scars [8:42]
  4. The fitness of BirthFit [11:30]
  5. Foundational movement patterns [26:10]
  6. Cesarean versus vaginal delivery recovery [34:08]
  7. Rapid fire questions [38:53]

Tune in or read more >

Diane Sanfilippo & Liz Wolfe | Balanced Bites Podcast | Fitness, Movement, & Postpartum Recovery with Dr. Lindsey Mathews of BirthFit

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New Book! The #21DSD Daily Guide

I'm in the final stages of editing my newest book, “The 21-Day Sugar Detox Daily Guide”! It releases January 2nd, 2018 and is one part daily guide, one part meal plan, and one part EASY RECIPES you are going to LOVE!!!

It's available for preorder now, and we have some awesome pre-order gifts planned (releasing in December!) that'll kick you off perfectly for your first few days of your 21DSD come January!

To pre-order the book click here.  

#21DSD BANANA BREAD // I made this today and crossed my fingers that it would work so that it could be ready for those of you who are getting the new book that's coming out January 2nd… AND IT DID. . I'm really proud of this because, as we all know, baking is not my strong suit. So, if you're not on the @21daysugardetox, you'd probably want a different recipe or you could make this one with super ripe bananas, but this one uses 21DSD-approved green-tipped/underripe ones, with a twist. . The result is yummy but not SO yummy that you will want to eat more than a portion (because that's what happens when sugar and fat combine… but that didn't happen here – because no added sugar). . Okay, enough teasing because this recipe won't be out for you until the book is out, but you *can* preorder it now via the link in my bio. . “The 21-Day Sugar Detox Daily Guide” – 1/2/18. . ALSO: if you'd love to meet me on a tour, comment below with the nearest major city to you, since I'd love to meet you early next year in January! . #21DSDdailyguide #sugarfree #sugardetox #obscuremycousinvinnereferenceinthere

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Balanced Bites Spices – Update!

2 of our original 8 spices are now sold out – COFFEE BBQ & SMOKY. More stock is coming later this fall of all of these as well as 5 NEW blends! One of the new blends coming is featured in “Practical Paleo 2nd edition” and the other 4 are brand new. All organic, gluten-free, sugar-free (the whole line is sugar-free and #21DSD except COFFEE BBQ) and all amazing!

Be sure you're following our official BB Spices Instagram account for more updates and to  enter to win some new blends this fall!!!

Note that MEGA MED will not be returning for this next batch so if it's a favorite of yours, grab it now while it's in stock!

Want to purchase my Balanced Bites Spices? Check them out here! >   

New on the 21DSD Blog

21DSD Roundup | Fries

We know how it is. Sometimes you just want some fries…but finding those that are 21DSD-approved can be tough. From turnips to parsnips to butternut squash, we've got a fry for every palate! Which one will be your new favorite?

See the recipes >

21-Day Sugar Detox | Recipe Roundup - Fries

21DSD Testimonial |I Didn’t Think I Had The Will-Power To Do It.

We're excited to introduce Joyce M., a 21DSD alum. Joyce's testimonial is part of a series featuring participants who rocked their 21DSDs! Enjoy! – Diane and Team

21-Day Sugar Detox | Testimonial - Will Power

See the testimonial >

21DSD Roundup | Instant-Pot Beef

The Instant Pot is the new pressure cooker, ready to deliver delicious meals in a fraction of the time! These beef recipes make use of tougher cuts of meat that typically take hours to braise or slow cook. Your Instant Pot (or a traditional pressure cooker) can have them table-ready in about 90 minutes!

See the recipes >

21-Day Sugar Detox | Recipe Roundup - Instant Pot Beef

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Highlights from Instagram

YOUR THOUGHTS // According to Brian Tracy, the world’s leading success coach (and countless others who say the same thing in various ways): “You become what you think about most of the time. And, when you change your thinking, you change your life.” . Part of who I am is innate, “I was born this way,” it’s my personality, etc. Much of it is learned and exercised into my brain and my psyche, and therefore into my daily life thoughts and practice. I do not simply sit down and hope things come to me or wish for things in my life. I create a vision, and a plan, and I do the work and execute on things to move myself in the direction of my vision. . But how? What is a practical way to train yourself to “get better” at these ways of thinking? . Here is is… I listened to this audio series as part of “sales training” when I worked at Lululemon for several months back in late 2007/early 2008 while I was starting Balanced Bites as a meal delivery business. I didn’t quite “get” how this was supposed to help me sell more stretchy pants at the time, but I remember sitting and listening and thinking, “well, whatever this is, it’s SUCKING ME IN AND I CANNOT STOP LISTENING.” . Fast forward a few years to when I was in the last job I’ll ever have that I mostly hated (the work itself was fine, but going to an office, on a schedule, with a boss, and sitting in a cube), and I listened to this on the way to and from on the bus or in my car. . Fast forward another year or so when I was traveling to teach Paleo seminars around the country, and I listened to this in airports, on airplanes, and everywhere in between. . We do not simply become better at things or more successful or wealthier by chance. . As Brian says: “Thoughts are causes and conditions are effects. Your thoughts create the conditions of your life. Successful people think about what they want and how to get it (where they’re going and how to get there). Unsuccessful people think about what they don’t want and who is to blame.” . What do YOU think about most of the time? . LISTEN: “The New Psychology of Achievement.” Find it on Audible. #dianedirect #briantracy

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San Francisco is iconic. It's a tourist destination. It's filled with views and scenes that we can all appreciate in see on a regular basis. . But what if we stopped to appreciate some lesser-known parts? What if we stopped and looked at something from a new angle, and appreciated it for how beautiful it is? . Maybe you can do this in your own home town or city. Just stop and appreciate the beauty of a moment in a spot where the light hits the water or a tree or grass or a flower… maybe even take a picture and share what you see as beautiful. . I'm rambling but I stopped to take this picture on our morning walk because I felt like if I had seen this while traveling abroad, I would have taken it. So why not here at home? Why not appreciate these views when they're in our own “backyard”? . I hope this encourages you to see beauty somewhere simple tomorrow.

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16 years. I honestly can’t believe it was THAT long ago when we all went to sleep on another fall evening not knowing what we’d wake up to the next morning. . Sunset walk last night. // I take this, and so many other experiences, as a lesson in a daily, regular, and abundant gratitude practice. Be so thankful to wake up each day and rest your head on the pillow each night. None of us truly knows what tomorrow will hold. . 9/11/01: I was driving to work that day, which happened to be in The Children’s Place store at the Livingston Mall in NJ. My job at the time was with TCP corporate in Secaucus, but this day was one where I was to experience store work for a day, to see what it was like to receive shipments, etc. It was sort of a funny request for me to do, since I had literally done that work for 6 years in Gap stores, but whatever, I was a good sport and didn’t resist it since every new HQ employee was asked to do this. At the time the idea of NOT being in an office for the day was welcomed. I never did like office life. . I was scheduled to be in the store at 9am and recall vividly being in my car, approaching the mall and listening to the Morning Zoo on Z100 as I always did. Except, this morning, Elvis and the crew weren’t making jokes and laughing. The news hit HARD and was very, very confusing. . I entered the mall before open hours, which was always silent and nearly empty, but this morning felt eerily more so. A few minutes after I got to the store, a visual merchandiser arrived who had been at the World Trade Center store earlier that morning helping them change out displays. . She had been at the World Trade Center THAT MORNING. She couldn’t believe what she had just narrowly escaped. Neither could we. We couldn’t believe anything that was happening that morning. . We closed up the store shortly thereafter and I spent the rest of the day with a friend, pinned to the television. . Cell service wasn’t getting through to anyone. Most of my friends were working in the city. We eventually found out they were all okay, and had walked to one friend’s brother’s apartment uptown in the city for safety. . Continued in 1st comment…

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